Of all the things going on in your life, the biggest one of them is the investment you’re making in your dating life. Didn’t know you were making investments? Well, yes, you are. 5 Areas You’re Investing In To Find Love: You’re investing time, energy, thoughts, feelings and money.
Are you getting a positive return on your investments? If you’re experiencing loneliness, frustration, or confusion then the answer is probably a resounding “No.” You need to invest in the right places for your dating bank account to grow. Before pointing out the right places to invest, let’s make sure you understand how you’re investing.
Top 5 Dating Investments:
Time–Whenever you go out to bars, clubs, or parties expecting to find a match, that becomes an investment of your time. The time you spend shopping for outfits and getting ready to go to these places is also an investment of time. The time you spend complaining about your situation is definitely an investment of time. So, any moment you’re tangled up looking for a companion is an investment of your time. Guard your time and don’t give it away to Time Vampires. You only get 24 hours a day and no one on the planet can buy more time, so use it wisely.
Energy–Going on dates that don’t work out the way you hoped is an investment of energy. Everything from arranging the date to the end of the night is energy spent. Conserve your energy. Not everyone deserves yours.
Thoughts–Our thoughts are active every waking moment. We can’t even monitor half of what’s going on in our heads half the time. So, imagine the sheer amount of thoughts you’re investing into your dating life. Thoughts of “if”, “when”, “how”, or “why” all add up over time and it can send us into unnecessary daydreaming, which wastes your precious time. A morning meditation routine is great for keeping our thoughts under control.
Feelings–Just like the energy you invest in your dating life, the feelings and emotions experienced when dating (or not dating) someone—sadness, anger, excitement, confusion, anxiousness, doubt, wonder—are also an investment. If unchecked, feelings can run amok and wreak havoc on our emotional state. A simple yoga practice can work wonders for controlling our inner world.
Money–Whenever we consume time, energy, thoughts or feelings, money is also likely to be spent. You invest your money in clothes to showcase your curves, and you invest money in buying drinks for yourself, possibly your friends, and your (cheap) date :-). Money, just like time, is one of our two most precious assets. You work hard for it. Conserve it. Throwing away money has been likened to giving away your power. Think about that the next time you’re spending a little too freely on others.
These investments add up over time, and if you aren’t in a happy relationship yet, it’s time to shake things up.
If You’re A Woman Who:
– Is successful and are looking for love
– Has been divorced or single a while
– Has a fear that your clock is ticking
– Had a terrible experience and now you’re jaded
– Can’t hold a relationship for over 2 to 6 months
Here’s Where To Invest Your Money Instead…
I suggest you consider investing in a dating coach or an online matchmaker. This person becomes your personal love trainer, focused on helping you put your best foot forward and navigate your dating world. This is someone who will…
– Help you identify what your ideal man really looks like 
– Get clear on the relationship you’re looking for
– Take the pressure of finding Mr. Right away from you
I know you’ve already paid dearly with your time and money in search of what you want, and you’ll continue to do so until you’re fed up.
However, just like with any worthwhile endeavor, you can go at it alone and struggle to find the loving relationship you desire or you can ask for help from a passionate professional that helps singles like you for a living. Just like professional sports coaches do, a dating coach or matchmaker will help you find your blind side and gently guide you toward your desired destination. This is a great way to skip all the heartache of the search and enjoy being in love.
What do you think?
Where have you been making your biggest investments? Do you see them paying off like they should?
Message me and let me know.
Michelle is frequently featured in media as a relationship expert and her articles have been featured in local and national publications.
Prior to becoming a certified relationship expert, Michelle served in the United States Marine Corps for 13 years in the role of international diplomacy and conflict resolution. She focused on breaking down barriers of communication among diplomats and world leaders that assisted in the development of critical relationships to maintain US security.This five foot tall dynamo teamed with U.S. agencies including the FBI, DOS, DOD and others where she led community outreach programs and acted as liaison with local city governments around the world.
- 5 Areas You’re Investing In To Find Love - July 17, 2020