You’re dating someone and you realize it isn’t going to work out. It happens and in general, you want to come out of it feeling good and not being a jerk in the process! Here are my 5 ways to make breaking up with a guy drama free, based upon personal experience. Yikes.
1. Peaceful and Serene
It happened very peacefully and serene. I was dating a very nice guy for a few months and one night, we just both came to the conclusion that it wasn’t going to work out. No drama, no outbursts. We even ended the night with a hug and a wave. No arguments. I told him that I thought we both deserved to be “adored,” which wasn’t happening. I wish him all the best in his search for happiness.
2. Distance
Long distance relationships are hard. I once ended a relationship because the distance just made it too challenging to get to know each other. We’re still friends. Drama-free.
3. Off-center
Yes, we’ve all dated a crazy or two (or three, or four…you get the picture). No matter how mad he may get if you break it off, you must remain calm. I once ended a brief relationship via email and he responded by lashing out on me first via voice mail and then via text. I did not respond. Eventually he disappeared. No outburst on my end!
4. Despite What He Says, You Will Not End Up a Crazy Cat Lady
Yeah, you. Don’t go there and dredge up the things you don’t like about a person. When an ex and I broke up, he insisted I was so picky and would end up alone with a house full of cats. Now, I had lots of thoughts about where he would end up, but I politely kept them to myself. He was the dick; I was the lady. And, for your reference, I’m allergic to cats!
5. Make Breaking Up With a Guy Drama Free by Doing it Face-to-Face
It’s so hard sometimes, but breaking up with someone in person is better than using email, phone or text. I’m not saying I’m not guilty of the easy out, but many years ago, I was dating this very sweet guy and I knew it wasn’t going anywhere. I made a date with him so I could end it in person. I just felt like I owed it to him. He was so nice in his response and we stayed in touch until he got married. Then, it was OK to say goodbye!
The point? Everyone has feelings and deserves respect during a breakup. Think about how you’d want to be treated if someone was ending things with you. There you go!
- 5 Ways to Make Breaking Up With a Guy Drama Free - June 5, 2020