We’ve all had those dates that just don’t go well. You might click while chatting online, texting, or talking on the phone, but once you hit the streets, the energy was just… meh. It’s okay! Chalk it up as a learning experience. Here are some things to think about when a date goes bad:

Don’t Waste the Whole Night

If it really isn’t going well, don’t suggest drinks elsewhere after dinner.  Don’t suggest any other event that evening after the one originally planned.  When a date goes bad, there is no point dragging it on or wasting more time.  You have fulfilled your original obligation.

When people are hitting it off, they spend hours together.  Do you really want to torture yourself or the other person?

Don’t Lead the Person On

If you aren’t feeling it, but your date seems to be more interested than you are, do not lead this person on! Don’t lie and say you had a great time or promise to text later.  Be honest.  It was one date! You don’t have to get into a big conversation about it. Just be upfront.

If it means you absolutely can’t say it right then and there, fine, but don’t imply that you will go out with this person again.  “Hey, thanks for going out with me tonight. I think I’m in a different place right now and this won’t work for me.  I hope you understand.”

When a date goes bad

Don’t Hit the Sack

When a date goes bad, the last thing you want to do is jump in bed with this person! I just told you not to waste any more time and not to lead the person on!  What are you thinking?! Unless you both had the original understanding that the date was just a hook-up to begin with, stay out of the sheets or back seats!

There are dating sites, and there are dating sites.  Hopefully, you’ve had some chats before the first date and understand if this is a hook-up to begin with. Don’t get caught with your pants down (ha-ha).

Don’t Give Up

Don’t be a sad sack and start feeling sorry for yourself when a date goes bad.  Put away that pizza and ice cream, do not blast your issues on social media, and instead stay positive! You just had a few hours out, hopefully somewhere you have never been before, instead of sitting home watching another rerun on T.V. You met someone who may have taught you something about yourself (your likes or dislikes). AND, there are a ton of people out there; one of them is meant just for you.  When the right person comes along, you will know it.  Be happy you knew this one wasn’t for you!

Melanie
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